Focus On Your Goals

Stop… STOP RIGHT NOW! Stop looking for a life partner and focus on your goals. Focus on rebuilding your life and once your life is built, focus on building it some more. Go beyond your blueprints because I’ll tell you one thing I’ve learned and that’s the right person will eventually find their way into your life. We connect with people who have similar souls to ours. 

Think about it for a second.

By focusing on your goals you’ll surround yourself with other people that are goal orientated. Those people will push you until you have achieved what you desired. Once you’ve obtained your goal then you will be surrounded by other people who’ve fought the way you did to get where you are now. You’ve just placed yourself in an environment with people that have similar interests as you do and possibly similar souls.

Right now, chasing somebody will only get you so far in a relationship. Now let’s be honest, now a day’s sex is a huge factor in a relationship. It’s so huge that sex usually happens before the relationship begins. Which is why most of the time the relationship never lasts that long. You are satisfied with the physical but that satisfaction would only last for so long. You are not two compatible people; you are two people that have sex. The saddest part is that this is what you can do with any other person that wants sex. 

What worked in the past that doesn’t happen most of the time now is the friendship took place before the relationship. Friendships now are being stretched out and brushed off because of social media. The understanding of a person before anything physical happens is gone because we assume we understand somebody by looking at their profile page.

If you decide that you want to be with somebody no matter what before you begin a relationship then you are on the right track. After having a friendship and transitioning into a relationship the next step is getting to know one another as more than friends. Starting the romance before being intimate is important. Once that flame has been lit for quite some time then the sex comes in and that’s the recipe for a long relationship. 

Focusing on your goals in life will help you get there because not only will you be bettering your own life in the process but you will inevitably create the best possible you for the best possible lover. If you can’t love yourself how could you expect somebody else to?  Knowing somebody else loves you and wants what’s best for you isn’t the same as you wanting that for yourself. 

So do yourself a favor readers and stop looking for a partner. Focus on your goals and rebuilding your life. The right person will find their way to you when you’re ready and I promise you, that will be the relationship that lasts. 

Peace readers

-Stylish Ev