Change The Force or Force The Change

Last week I wrote a post about focusing on your goals and in the past week I've noticed something strange. I’m not sure if it’s because I’m older or because I’m at a better place in my life now; but coming into the second week of the year it truthfully seems like people are trying too hard to change. More specifically people are trying too hard to change someone else. I understand how you want to better yourself and your life but you can’t force someone to change who doesn’t want to. Maybe this has been going on all my life and I’m old enough to realize it now but it truthfully seems pathetic. 

More damage than good is done when you attempt to change somebody who doesn’t want to be changed. Do yourself a favor and be the change you want to see. If you give that person space and let them continue to live the life they want then in that time they will hopefully realize their wrong doing. If they don’t want to change their self there is no way you will be able to change them.

I know it is hard seeing the person you care about suffer either if its a family member, friend, or loved one. If they don’t want to change there is honestly nothing you can do about it. You will only be hurting yourself more and adding stress to your life if you continue to worry. Do yourself a huge favor and honestly focus on yourself. It is one thing to worry about the things you can control. However, once you start worrying about the things you can’t control your life drags in so much stress. 

As the second week of the year begins look back and notice the small changes you’ve already made for yourself. Don’t give up on you! Continue to aim for that consistent progress and get your mind off of an idea of perfection.  If you strive for perfection you will fail more times than not. However, if you strive for progress you will succeed more times than not and build confidence in yourself. That is the smartest way to move towards perfection and you can’t do that for anybody else but yourself. You making positive changes will hopefully encourage the people around you to do the same. Stay strong readers only 50.143 weeks left of this year so make them count.

Peace readers

-Stylish Ev