Thankful Bond

Brotherhood has a strong effect on a young man. It controls the urges of being belonged. In a brotherhood a young man gets this familial aspect to life. Belonging to something far greater than their self. This causes the young man to want to prove himself to the brotherhood because of the constant state of comfort. However, the proof can be asserted in two different ways, a negative way and a positive way. Negative aspects are seen over and over again through organizations with negative motives; for example gangs and killing others to belong in a group. One the other side, positive aspects of a brotherhood are clubs; for example a dance club. Where proving yourself leads to self-growth and positive reinforcement from the group. What these two aspect, negative and positive, have is common is a single powerful feeling of guilt if letting members of the group down, family members. This feeling can cause self petty or even resentment from the group depending on the scenario. The negative side to a brotherhood could end your life if you let members down. However, on the positive side of a brotherhood, letting members down can lead to them encouraging you to be better. To my readers, choose your brotherhood wisely! Because the ones that want to see you succeed in life will lift you higher!  

Peace readers

-Stylish Ev

Idealism Vs. Romance

“There are two kinds of people in this world, hopeless romantics and realists. A realist can look at a girl see that face and pack it in with every beautiful face they seen before. A hopeless romantic becomes convinced that god put that girl on earth to be with that one person. But there is no God and life is only as meaningful as you fool yourself into thinking it is”. After hearing this quote in the movie Stuck In Love I believed that there is a third kind of person in this world… That person being the combination of a realist and a hopeless romantic. All my life I believed in huge gestures of loves that could compel the person you adore to care about you. However, honestly speaking people don’t usually get the person they want. It is either because the timing is wrong, or the moment is right and that person genuinely isn’t into you. Well I say false to all those reasons! I believe that if you truly want to be with somebody it will happen either if it is now or later. Romance just speeds up the enviable. Lust has a way of hallucinating what one might believe to be love. However, lust is temporary and love is long term. A person who is a realist and a hopeless romantic not only believes that if something is meant to happen it will but the time may not be now. “We except the love we think we deserve” is another great quote I heard from the movie Perks of Being a Wallflower, depicting how we believe we deserve the love that is owed to us. This can back fire for a hopeless romantic if the hopeless romantic believes the love they desire is horrible. A realist would not even consider that love is owed to anyone but a combination of the two would realize that love is owed to us and we should deserve the best of it. The message I am getting across to you my readers is this. Love is a fascinating experience and you can read about it all you want but if you do go out there and love somebody for everything that they truly are, you would never understand what I’m talking about; or anyone else. “Sorry, I have to go see about a girl,” Good Will Hunting… 

Peace readers

-Stylish Ev

Code Switching

Sometimes when one's life is moving too fast it needs to be slowed down. However, realizing the speed of one’s life is not an easy task when the speed is above normal. I know this first hand because I’m going through it now. I’m slowing down my life from the intense speed it was at. When everything is fun and games it’s hard to get serious for those necessary moments because mentally you can be unaware of realizing when it is time to get serious. The name of the technique used to switch from being serious to having fun is called “code switching.” I learned about this term in high school, the literal meaning comes from being able to switch languages within a conversation, but if you analyze the meaning a bit more and think about it, the body is a language as well. We all code switch because very few people act the same way they do outside and inside of a place or home. It is a natural trait most people learn at an early age. Having a fast lifestyle paralyzes this ability because a certain kind of action begins to stick with an individual, making it hard to switch personalities back and forth for certain occasions. Code switching is essential for obtaining different connections such as jobs, learning opportunities, friendships, and even life lessons. However, all of these could be lost if your lifestyle is moving too fast. Moving too slow has its consequences as well, so a balance must be maintained in order to progress sufficiently in life. As difficult as it may seem my readers, once you find that balance and get used to that speed, in time it would become a healthy habit and you will get further in life.

Peace readers
-Stylish Ev

Leaving The Past Behind You

It is not easy to change from somebody you use to be into somebody you want or need to be. Especially when there is a constant reminder of who you were this makes the change more difficult. Change is not something that can occur overnight. However, if you wake up every morning feeling like the person you were yesterday, then you are only going to continue to live in the past. Living in the past is a haunting of one’s self. We cannot look to change when we are constantly reminding ourselves of who we were. As human beings we are drawn to what we know and what we experience the most. Theoretically speaking, it is difficult to shift and become somebody new or different when you keep reliving the past. You end up making the same mistakes and not moving forward towards the person you want to be because you keep looking back. Literally speaking, it is impossible to know where you are going when you are constantly looking behind you. This is how the haunting of the past works. If you keep looking back, you would never get to where you need to go. Nonetheless, understanding your past and learning from it then moving forward is what can make a brighter future; a change in one’s self. Then it would be easier to do as Mahatma Gandhi said “you must be the change you wish to see in the world.” Once the constant reminders of the past aren’t holding you back the future will seem so much closer than what is was before. So remember my readers the past is there to guide you to a better future, not to guide you into an even worst past. Use your experiences wisely.

Peace readers

-Stylish Ev