What Are You Thankful For

This year I didn't post any pictures of food. I didn't post any pictures of a meal or a feast because that's only what brought the people I care about together. The food isn't what I'm thankful for though it's the people holding the forks and knives sitting beside me. No snapshot or edited photo of that moment can describe how I truly feel. It's the laughter we share as we tell our jokes and sip our champagne, sip our wine, that's truly indescribable. It's the love I feel as I look across the table and see somebody smiling back at me that's truly indescribable. Making me thankful for all the people who have stayed in my life. I am thankful for the love and support I receive when I need it. Even when I don't need it I am still thankful. I am thankful for the amazing friends I have and all the good times we share. I am even thankful for those bad times which makes me appreciate the good times even more. Thanksgiving to me is more than food. Thanksgiving to me is a time where I sit down at a table with the people I truly love and say thanks. I say thank you for loving me as much as I love you.

Happy Thanksgiving!

Peace readers

-Stylish Ev  

Just Want You To Be Happy

I never truly understood what the expression “you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink,” meant until now. I knew of the quote and comprehended its meaning long ago, but I’ve never really experienced its meaning until now. People, like horses, are only capable of doing what they set their minds to. No matter how hard you try to make somebody realize what they are currently setting their mind on is wrong for them, a person would deliberately stray on the path their mind has set out. It’s inevitable to get them out of this mind set unless that person truly wants to. I believe it isn’t ignorance that keeps somebody on this path because in my experience the person fully understands what they are doing wrong. I believe it is a fear of allowing somebody to help them. A fear of something new due to the comfort that was developed from doing the wrong thing, a fear of change which will affect their pride in a sense. I question the people who stare happiness in the face, people who stare truth in the face, but will close their eyes and then look the other way. Why would somebody sacrifice another second of not being happy because of fear, because of change? Have you ever considered how the leader of that horse felt? Bringing the horse to its salvation, only to stand there and watch as the horse slowly dies from dehydration. As a leader myself I can tell you that it’s heartbreaking, providing someone with happiness only to watch them choose its polar opposite. If the leader would have forced the horse to drink that water it would only drown. The same goes with happiness. If happiness is forced it would only feel just as bad as being miserable. We can’t force somebody to be happy they have to want to be happy in order to truly experience happiness. If the leader stood there waiting for the horse to drink water he will begin to crave a thirst as well. It’s sad but in those situations there is nothing you can do but step back and wait. Step back and continue to live your life while that person will eventually realize that happiness is within reach. If you have somebody that you’re trying to help but they won’t accept your help readers just give it time. There is no need to stress over somebody else’s suffering. The good part is that they now know they can come to you if they decided to accept your help. They can take a day, a week, a month, or maybe some years but when the horse finally drinks the water it will be all worth it in the end.

Peace readers

-Stylish Ev